Meeting My Inner Child: The Day Everything Changed

28 May

(Updated November 2025)

For as long as I can remember, I struggled with romantic relationships. If a guy treated me well, I’d lose interest. If he was distant or dismissive, I’d chase him like my life depended on it. It was exhausting — a painful, vicious cycle. Somehow, love and pain had become intertwined in my mind. If it didn’t hurt, it didn’t feel real. Crazy, right?

For years, I blamed bad luck, bad timing, bad men — everything except myself. It never occurred to me that I might be the common denominator. That maybe, just maybe, something deep within me was subconsciously recreating this same painful pattern over and over again.

That realization didn’t come easily. It came after yet another heartbreak — one that finally broke me open. I was tired of the drama, tired of the tears, tired of losing myself trying to win someone else’s love.

So, one night in meditation, I made a promise to the Universe:

“I’m ready. I’ll do whatever it takes to clear whatever’s blocking me from healthy love.”

And oh boy… was the Universe listening.

A Message from The Other Side

A few months later, my spiritual mentor, Fiona Greenheart, who was also a psychic medium and tarot reader called out of the blue.
(I’ll share another story soon of how Fiona had a knack for bringing life-changing messages from the other side.)

This time, she said my Dad — who had passed away two years before — had come through with something important to tell me. At first, I was touched. Then shocked.
Because the message was not what I expected at all.

Fiona told me:

“Your dad says he’s the reason you’ve struggled with relationships.”

I immediately protested. “No way! My Dad was wonderful!”
Fiona smiled gently and said, “He said you’d say that.”

Then she explained. When I was little, my Dad would treat me like a princess one moment and then emotionally withdraw the next. It wasn’t intentional — he had his own deep childhood wounds — but it created a confusing push-pull dynamic for me as a child.

Without realizing it, I had grown up seeking that same “tug of love” in my adult relationships. My subconscious believed that love equals inconsistency.

That realization shook me to the core.
I adored my Dad, and I still do — but understanding this helped me forgive both him and myself.

The same dance played out with my brothers too — a pattern that quietly wove itself into my early understanding of what love from men looked and felt like.

I have come to the understanding through working with my birth chart that these are karmic patterns that I have brought in from past lives but this is the life that I break these patterns for good (Pluto, Saturn & the Nodes share this part of the story).

Because awareness, as I’ve learned, is the first step to healing these patterns.

Enter: Inner Child Therapy

Fiona introduced me to Inner Child Therapy — and interestingly, the day before she called, I’d attended a Kundalini yoga workshop all about Inner Child Healing. At the time, I thought, “I had a great childhood. I don’t need this.”

Now I see my intuition had led me there for a reason.

So what is Inner Child Therapy? It’s about reconnecting with the part of you that’s still carrying unhealed pain from childhood — the part that felt scared, unseen, or unloved.

That “little you” still lives inside your subconscious, and if he or she is wounded, he or she will keep repeating the same emotional patterns in adulthood — until you finally stop, listen, and love him or her back to wholeness.

A wounded inner child can show up as:

Self-sabotage
Fear of abandonment
Fear of commitment
Codependency
Overreacting emotionally
Feeling “not good enough”
Fear of being vulnerable
Fear of intimacy

Sound familiar? It sure did to me.

How I Started Healing

Here are the tools that helped me reconnect with little Yvonne:

The book “Homecoming” by John Bradshaw – This workbook guided me through meditations where I actually met my younger self.
The first time I did, I told her, “I love you, and I’ll always be here for you.”
I can’t describe it properly, but something shifted inside me that day. A huge weight lifted.
Inner Child journaling and guided meditations – I began writing letters to my younger self and listening to Inner Child meditations.
Parenting myself – I started treating myself with the gentleness and love I would give a child. When I’m tired, I rest. When I’m sad, I comfort myself. When I achieve something, I celebrate.

Understanding the Subconscious Mind

Our subconscious mind runs about 95% of our lives. It’s where all those early memories, beliefs, and emotional imprints are stored.

Until around age 7, we live in a Theta brain state — like hypnosis. We absorb everything around us and form beliefs based on what we see and feel. Later in life, those beliefs play out automatically — even when they no longer serve us.

But the good news? You can reprogram your subconscious through repetition, meditation, hypnosis, and affirmations.

If you want to dive deeper, I recommend:

“The Genie Within - The Subconscious Mind” by Harry Carpenter
Bruce Lipton’s work at brucelipton.com

Understanding your subconscious is like finding the instruction manual for your own life.

Where I Am Now

So, have I found my soulmate yet? Not quite. But I have found something far more important — peace within myself.

Now, when I meet someone who shows those old red flags, I walk away without hesitation. No drama, no heartbreak, just calm clarity. That, to me, is proof that the healing is working.

And when the right person does appear — the one who loves me gently and consistently — I’ll be ready. Because now, I finally know what healthy love feels like.

Final Thoughts

Meeting my Inner Child changed everything. It wasn’t easy — it was messy, emotional, and confronting. But it was also the most freeing thing I’ve ever done. Not only did it help me heal patterns in me that were attracted to these painful dynamics with men, it also helped unlock a greater flow of creativity within me. Shortly after doing the inner child healing program I sat down and using the High Priestess tarot card as my muse I designed my first jewellery collection and called it The High Priestess Collection (of course!). You can check that out here.

If any part of my story resonates with you, maybe it’s your turn to meet your Inner Child too. He/She has been waiting for you all along.

‘Three things are striking about inner child work. The speed with which people change when they do this work; the depth of that change; and the power and the creativity that result when the wounds from the past are healed’

-John Bradshaw-

If you would like a guide on your inner child healing journey I offer an 8 week Inner Child Healing program. You can find out more about that here . And click here to read what some of my previous clients experienced.

Yvonne Power